Help! My_____ (insert person here) is Driving me Crazy While Planning my Wedding!

Wedding planning is supposed to be fun! Wedding planning is supposed to be relaxing! Everyone will love all of your wedding planning ideas! Blah! Blah! Blah! Lol At least that’s what you hear, right? Well, for some people these statements are somewhat true! For others, it's not. And that’s who this blog is for. This blog is for you if you are dealing with family, friends, etc who are imposing their ideas, disliking your choices, and just for those who just seem to be downright RUDE! Hahaha

I can’t even count the number of brides I have worked with or heard say, “OMG, I love my (insert person here)  but he/she is driving me crazy!” I always have to remind the bride/couple that it's because they are excited and they don’t feel included or involved. Here are a few ways to go about this:

Sit down and talk over lunch or coffee. Explain and show them you and your fiance’s ideas. (it helps if your fiance is present as well) Show them pictures, your vision, colors, etc. Let them give their input and say thank you. Don’t be rude. You never know, they may have some great suggestions to take your wedding to the next level. 

Assign them with tasks. It's tradition for the in-laws to throw the engagement party and rehearsal dinner. Take your hands off and let her/him handle every aspect from place, invites, decor, guests (with your suggestions), and catering. If there is a task you’re stuck on, ask them for help. For example, are you unsure which shoe you should wear for the day of the wedding, send her your top 3 picks and let her choose. Or, are you unsure if you should pass out firecracker shrimp, bruschetta, crab cakes, or mini lamb chops, ask her for her opinion. Give them small tasks and allow them to make the decisions on the items that are not the major things on your list. 

Set boundaries! Make sure you and your fiance are always on the same page, that will limit confusion and some of the issues from outsiders. It’s perfectly fine if you and your fiance decide not to share all the details about the wedding. That will keep their opinions on certain things astray. Also, when it comes to dress shopping if you know you have an overly opinionated ______ (insert: sister, mom, mother in law, friend) it’s ok to not invite them. You don’t have to have 10 people at your dress fitting unless that’s what you want. My opinion, the less the better but these are my thoughts feel free to do what makes you feel comfortable. :)

Hire a wedding planner! He or she will be such a major help asset in dealing with overzealous friends and/or family. The wedding planner has your best interests at heart. I have past clients who have asked me at times to be the bearer of bad news OR to play the middle man to keep the chaos or opinions down to a minimum. In planning meetings, where the mom and mother in law are present, the wedding planner is able to bring everyone together to remember the main reason why they are present, to bring your vision to life. Letting everyone know they have great suggestions but “Tim & Sue” have already made a decision and that is how we plan to move forward. Our role, as a wedding planner,  is to bring you and your fiance’s vision to life. 

Always remember to be respectful. Don’t be rude because even though this is your wedding day, your family will still be your family after the wedding is over. You will need them again. 

Choose Joy, Love, and Peace,

Princess M.